This is probably one of the largest topic or conflict that one can ever think about. I used to be very firm in answering yes to this question, but it all changed after an incident that happened to me a few years back (with one of my closest friends who happens to be a man). Henceforth I don't believe in true friendship between the opposite sex.
I think that there must be one side that feels more than the other, yet they remain friend because he/she doesn't want to make a move. It destroys the friendship if one side tries to change it, and the dangerous part is, there is no turning back.
Lately I questioned myself this again, because I think the way I perceive things start to change. There might, or there is, just that I haven't noticed.
Being with them are just comfortable and happy until everyone doubts our status. But me being a Gemini who's so sensitive to all the extraordinary 'feeling', I'm proud to say that we are close friends. And definitely nothing more than that. Laughing our lungs out in the public, hiding the deepest side of us only when we are facing each other. Isn't that what close friends do? And it is just too comfortable being a friend. Too much. Too much that I feel things start to fade or it isn't like how it was. And I start to complain like a furious puppy trying to get lunch.
There used to be times where we literally chat nonstop and couldn't let go of the phone because it was too fun. Times where we lay on the same bed talking till 3am about so so so many things (I didn't know that men can also talk so much). Times where we talk nonstop on a 6hours journey and already planning for the next one.
I believe it's the memory that's haunting me. Because reality teaches me that happiness doesn't last. The faster it began, the faster it would end. And I believe reality is trying to separate us, literally dragging us away to different corners.
Dealing friendships with men ain't the same way to deal with women. And I'm still learning the right way. Meanwhile, I shall keep them in my heart and thank god that at least we met.
Thank god because it happened. I tried to hold it hard, but it just didn't seem to work. From my side I have done my best, so God, please do your best too.
Please give them a smooth journey ahead. Please let them be happy in whatever they do. Love you, bffs :)
I think that there must be one side that feels more than the other, yet they remain friend because he/she doesn't want to make a move. It destroys the friendship if one side tries to change it, and the dangerous part is, there is no turning back.
Lately I questioned myself this again, because I think the way I perceive things start to change. There might, or there is, just that I haven't noticed.
Being with them are just comfortable and happy until everyone doubts our status. But me being a Gemini who's so sensitive to all the extraordinary 'feeling', I'm proud to say that we are close friends. And definitely nothing more than that. Laughing our lungs out in the public, hiding the deepest side of us only when we are facing each other. Isn't that what close friends do? And it is just too comfortable being a friend. Too much. Too much that I feel things start to fade or it isn't like how it was. And I start to complain like a furious puppy trying to get lunch.
There used to be times where we literally chat nonstop and couldn't let go of the phone because it was too fun. Times where we lay on the same bed talking till 3am about so so so many things (I didn't know that men can also talk so much). Times where we talk nonstop on a 6hours journey and already planning for the next one.
I believe it's the memory that's haunting me. Because reality teaches me that happiness doesn't last. The faster it began, the faster it would end. And I believe reality is trying to separate us, literally dragging us away to different corners.
Dealing friendships with men ain't the same way to deal with women. And I'm still learning the right way. Meanwhile, I shall keep them in my heart and thank god that at least we met.
Thank god because it happened. I tried to hold it hard, but it just didn't seem to work. From my side I have done my best, so God, please do your best too.
Please give them a smooth journey ahead. Please let them be happy in whatever they do. Love you, bffs :)